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Urban Suburban Magazine - Education

Diversity In Faith:
Two Parents, Two Different Faiths,
One Decision to Make
by Sana' Moody

When the two people who love you the most have two completely different opinions; when you try so hard to please both; when you’re confused about what you feel is right; when you are told you can have only one faith and follow one religion; when sooner or later a decision will have to be made, then will you truly understand how it feels to have parents of two different religions.

I have lived with having parents of two different faiths for much of my life; yes,, it seemed strange to others, but it never really phased me. I knew things were different. I was different; and because of this, life was, at times, a bit complicated with my parents; but I tried not to think of it in a negative way. Never did it cross my mind that one day I would have to choose one faith until that day actually came. Making this decision taught me to accept responsibility and to make decisions on what is best for me and not just on how to please others.

Growing up, my mother was a Muslim and my father was an Israelite, which is much like an African American Jew. I was exposed to both of these religious traditions throughout my entire childhood, but mostly my mother’s, because I lived with her and only visited my dad from time to time. Because I lived with my mother, I always assumed that I would follow in her footsteps and become a Muslim. When I became older, my father informed me that we needed to talk. I knew that the topic had to be important just by the tone in his voice. As we sat down to talk I could feel the seriousness in the air... almost as if I the tension in the room was crawling through my skin. He said that, pretty soon, I would have to choose one faith to follow. I did not want to disappoint either one of my parents, so I explained to my father that, maybe, I could follow both faiths. However, this was not an option. He said that within his religion, like a militant to his instructor, one must show full dedication and respect to only one faith. At that point, I knew that I had to make a decision.

I began attending my father’s church more often and I fell in love with the family feeling of the community and the pure knowledge that I received each time I attended the classes. When this became a regular thing, I could truly discern who I wanted to be. I decided to inform my mother once I knew for sure. My mom always told me that she would support me in whatever I choose, but I knew in her heart, that by not choosing to be Muslim that I would hurt her feelings as if all her hopes and dreams were simply crushed. When I told my mother of my decision, she began to cry. I felt terrible, but she later let me know that she loved me no matter what faith I chose, and that she would continue to support me. My decision was final. Not only did I know I made the right decision, but I also took a step towards maturity and responsibility.

When the two people who love you the most have two completely different opinions; when you try so hard to please both; when you’re confused about what you feel is right; when you are told you can have only one faith and follow one religion; when, sooner or later, a decision will have to be made, then will you truly understand how it feels to have parents of two different religions. Most of my life I focused on trying to please others and never wanting to disappoint them meant a lot to me- even if it meant not always doing what was best for me. However, this whole situation showed me that from now on, as a young adult, that it is time to make decisions that are best for ME, that will impact ME in a positive way, and that will lead ME to success; even if it means disappointing others. So, much like the faith I chose to practice, I choose college because I know that it is what’s best for me and it’s what will lead me to the path of success… no matter what others think.


Sana’ Moody


 

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