I think a fundamental
question faced by men in the pursuit of attracting women is:
Can attracting women be learned? Is it a result of genetics,
of having been gifted with prominent cheekbones, lean
muscularity or a sizable organ? Or perhaps having a
prominent checkbook and the right surname? Is it about
having a naturally outgoing personality, charisma, and sharp
wit? Or perhaps possession of influence and personal power?
As complex as women are,
there is no one answer to explain their preferences. As
individuals, they, like we, are different, with different
genetics, different experiences, and therefore, different
tastes. And itís been said, thereís no accounting for taste.
So, it may be true that to some women, height and good looks
matter a lot. Some schools of thought say that women value
financial security more. Others say that personality,
masculinity, sense of humor, or any of a variety of
different criteria matters most.
And so, the questions must
of necessity be: Is it possible to attract women, and if so,
can any man do it? And will it work with ANY woman
specifically? The answer is yes, and no.
Yes, in the sense that it
is possible to attract the kind of women that you like, and
who would like you in return, but whom you need to actively
attract to you. This requires you to learn the techniques
for attracting women, and actively engaging in the pursuit.
Sitting at home simply wonít do; you have to go out and
approach them. Attracting women involves the application of
learned skills in a consistent and persistent fashion. Just
like any skill, itís all about practice and playing the
probabilities. You simply have to keep approaching women.
When you play the numbers,
however, remember that your chances of winning can be
enhanced by other things besides the application of the
techniques. Some of your strengths can be emphasized, and
your weaknesses downplayed. For example, age differential,
or shortness, or obesity may hinder you to some extent, but
should not stop you. Instead, play to your strengths, and
remember that womenís preferences are not all the same. If
you persist, you WILL succeed in attracting women.
However, it is not
possible to attract all women, or just any specific one. If
there were a specific woman that you wanted to attract, but
who is simply not interested or attracted to you, no skill
or technique or persistence is guaranteed to work. History
is replete with stories of unrequited love � of men who
thought that they can make a woman want them. If they had
simply tried to attract other women instead, and kept
persisting, they would have been met with success.
So, in sum, yes, attracting
women can be learned. Will it always work? No. But if it
allows you to attract the women you want, and who want you
in return, isnít it worth it to try?