by Ava Black
My boyfriend has become obsessed with the idea of a
threesome. We have been in a monogamous relationship for 3
years and he wants to “try new things”. Should I be outraged
at the suggestion or simply insist on another man rather
than woman? Are there any restrictions when involving a
The More The Merrier?
I LOVE the idea of a
threesome of me and two men. But let’s be honest, when a man
suggests a threesome he is thinking only of himself and
being with two women. When considering threesomes it needs
to be something you BOTH want. Are you ok with him having
sex with another woman? Will you see yourself differently if
you enjoy being touched by a woman? Girl-on-girl action is a
BIG part of your man’s fantasy. Is he willing to invite
another man into the room for your enjoyment as well? Would
you WANT that? And don’t just defensively say no. THINK
about it and BE HONEST with yourself and with him. On the
flip side, can you handle it? Once the night is over and you
have both come down off your sexual high, will you look at
him the same? Will you believe him when he says he loves
you? All these questions will NEED to be answered and
thoroughly before moving forward.
Sadly Merrier, I feel
threesomes are best left OUT of loving relationships.
Although not PC I think it’s best to experience threesomes
with someone in a strictly sexual relationship or an affair.
YES, an affair! This way no one gets mad about what the
other person is doing. No one goes home crying because he /
she seemed to enjoy the other person more than they enjoyed
each other. This adventure is best reserved for two people
who are not in love or looking to be anything more than
physical. Intercourse, blow jobs, etc are all fair game.
Once real emotions get involved it gets tricky. People say
they can deal with it but they can’t. Who wants to see their
man enter another woman? And I have yet to meet a man who is
cool with just the thought of a man having sex with his
woman. They can barely handle thinking about you being with
I think it’s a bad idea.
‘Try new things’ that will bring you closer together
sexually rather than possibly make the initial rip in
tearing you apart. If it becomes a bigger issue, then you
should consider the depth of his ‘love’ and yours. A man who
truly loves you would NEVER suggest a threesome. The mere
suggestion is a red flag in the distance denoting the end of
I am not gay and do not think about having sex with men but
lately I have been dying to try anal sex (giving, not
receiving). My girl is terrified and feels it’s for whores.
Is this something that most women are against or secretly
want to do? How can I convince her to let me in the
Let Me In!
Anal sex is a tough one
(no pun intended). You are not alone. Most guys want it. Men
are quick to ‘accidentally’ poke us in the ass but let us
get CLOSE to your nether regions and all of a sudden you’re
standing upright butt clenched TIGHT. Asses are anatomically
the same. Blindfolded, no grabbing of hips, would you be
able to tell what that ass is attached to? NO! It all boils
down to trust. Do some research. Don’t embarrass or pressure
her. Find an article that describes it as ‘mind blowing’.
Know what to do and HOW to do it cause make no mistake, it
IS gonna hurt! Take your TIME and USE LUBRICANT!
It’s COMPLETELY her
choice. She makes the rules for her body. Just know this
decision will be made on a case by case, (or penis by penis)
basis... cause size will most certainly matter.
As a woman in my sexual prime (42), how can I be sexually
satisfied without resorting to young guns? My boyfriend
CANNOT keep up! How can I have a great relationship with
still be satisfied sexually? I’m struggling to stay faithful
and happy with the current state of affairs. Can you help?
Oh Falling Short, I have wondered the same thing. First –
talk to him. He will not listen or believe you because
TRUST, he thinks he is ‘putting it down’ (and maybe he is),
but still let him know how you feel. Suggest cardio for
stamina and weight lifting for...lifting your weight (cause
we all love to be properly tossed). And after all of that
just know...NONE OF IT WILL HELP OR MATTER!
A man being in shape
helps with stamina, but it has NOTHING to do with the
stamina of his penis. DID YOU HEAR THAT?! Let me say that
ONE MORE TIME: A man can be in the BEST PHYSICAL SHAPE OF
HIS LIFE (6 pack, and all) and his 40+ yr old penis will NOT
reflect it! He STILL will not be able to keep up with you!
This is why I firmly believe women in their 40′s are SEXUAL
PERFECTION for a man in HIS prime at 21-30. All the running,
hiking, climbing, and lifting IN THE WORLD will change
NOTHING below the waist for your man. His penis will always
scream ‘I’m 42 and this chick is trying to kill me’! Nurture
your age appropriate relationship fully, and get your cougar
on in your spare time. Yes, I just encouraged you to seek
sexual satisfaction elsewhere! Face it - he will NEVER be
able to keep up. Your prime will not last forever so go with
it! What do you think our boyfriends did during THEIR prime?
What’s good for the goose...
Get yours and STOP falling short!
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