Andrew Harmon




It's Ok To Tell Him That You Need Him

by CDoubleR

Ladies, sometimes we have a hard time letting our partners know how much we really need them, especially independent women. Unfortunately, I must say I am guilty of this. I believe it is a condition that s developed by no fault of our own. When a person, especially a woman, has been independent for so long itís not in her nature to ask for help when she needs it. If she is use to putting gas in her car, carrying her groceries, taking out the trash or changing light bulbs itís difficult to stop these habits sometimes without being asked.

When a woman has been forced to be independent or is driven to be independent we forget that itís ok to ask for help and to get help from our significant others. But sometimes the word ďneedĒ is too strong for independent women to use even when they know they should. Itís not because they donít want the help itís usually because they are not use to asking or requiring help. So, men donít take it personal if she doesnít ask for your help even when you know she can use it.

The best thing a man can do when he wants to help this kind of woman is to just jump in and help because nine times out of ten she will not solicit your help. If she is washing clothes, fold them when they come out of the dryer. If she cooks clean up the kitchen. If her car is on ďEĒ fill up the tank and run it through the car wash. If there are things that need to be fixed or repaired around the house and you can fix or repair them just do it. These are the small things that really mean a lot, especially if she is a busy woman.

Itís not always the financial help that is important but the helping of a hand that is important to the independent woman. As Jill Scott sings in her beautiful song ďI Need YouĒ:

I can pay my own light bill baby
Pump my own gas in my own car
I can buy my own shoe collection
I've been blessed thus far
I can kill the spider above my bed
Although it's hard because I'm scared
I can even stain and polyurethane
But some things just don't change
I need you yeah
Sometimes so hard to say oh
I need you

So, to all of my independent women itís ok to say I need you. It doesnít make you less independent it just makes you more human.

Iím just saying

C Double R!

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